Holding Crayons
Holding Crayons
Learning how to hold and control writing tools is one of the first big steps in early childhood development. Before a child learns to write letters or numbers, they need to develop the fine motor skills that allow them to use pencils, crayons, markers, etc. with comfort and control. As a parent, you can play an important role in guiding your preschooler through this process in fun, natural ways.
Why Grip Matters
A proper grip helps children draw, color, and eventually write without frustration. Pre-K children are still developing hand strength and coordination, so their grasp may start with a full fist (“palmar grasp”) before moving to a more mature “tripod grasp,” where the pencil rests between the thumb, index, and middle fingers. Supporting this progression makes writing smoother and more enjoyable for your child.
Practical Tips for Parents
Start with the right tools: Choose thick crayons, markers, or short “beginner” pencils. These are easier for small hands to control and encourage a proper grip. Honeysticks are a good choice for beginners. Honeysticks are non-toxic, safe for toddlers and made with natural beeswax and food-grade colors. Here’s a link to Honeysticks on Amazon.
Model and guide gently: Show your child how you hold a pencil, then let them imitate. If needed, gently position their fingers, but avoid forcing it.
Use fun activities for practice: Coloring books, dot-to-dot pages, tracing shapes, or even drawing in sand or shaving cream help strengthen fine motor skills.
Encourage hand strength: Activities like playing with playdough, stringing beads, or using tongs to pick up small items build the muscles needed for writing.
Praise effort over perfection: Celebrate their attempts, whether they hold it correctly or not. Progress takes time and practice.
Keep It Playful
At this age, learning should feel like play. Offer short, engaging opportunities rather than long practice sessions. Give your child crayons or markers during art time, keep a doodle pad handy, or let them help write grocery lists with you. The more they practice in fun, low-pressure ways, the faster their grip will improve.
View and download our helpful Kindergarten Readiness Checklist.
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