A Parent’s Guide for Bedtime Struggles
A Parent’s Guide for Bedtime Struggles
Helping Pre-K and Kindergarteners with Bedtime Struggles
Bedtime can feel like a daily battle for some parents of pre-k and kindergarten-aged children. Just when you think the day is winding down, your little one may suddenly have bursts of energy, resist putting on pajamas or insist they aren’t tired at all. These struggles are normal at this stage of development, but with patience and consistency, bedtime can become calmer and more predictable.
Why Bedtime Struggles Happen
At ages 3–6, children are developing independence and testing boundaries. Bedtime often becomes the moment they try to assert control - choosing stories, delaying with requests, or sneaking out of bed. Additionally, their imaginations are blossoming, which can lead to fears of the dark, monsters or bad dreams. Busy daytime schedules and overstimulation from screens or activities can also make it harder for children to settle down.
Tips for Smoother Bedtimes
Create a Consistent Routine: Children thrive on predictability. A regular sequence - bath, pajamas, brushing teeth, story, and lights out - signals to your child that it’s time to wind down. Keeping this routine consistent every night helps their body and mind prepare for sleep.
Set Clear Boundaries: Establish bedtime rules in a positive way, such as “Once we read our story, it’s time for sleep.” Be firm but gentle and avoid negotiating every night. When boundaries are clear, children feel secure and know what to expect.
Provide Comfort: Offer reassurance for fears by using a nightlight, giving a favorite stuffed animal or leaving the bedroom door slightly open. A quick goodnight check-in after a few minutes can also ease separation anxiety.
Limit Screen Time and Stimulation: Screens and active play too close to bedtime can delay sleep. Aim to turn off devices at least an hour before bed and choose calming activities like puzzles, drawing, or quiet play instead.
Encourage Daytime Habits that Support Sleep: Plenty of physical activity during the day, balanced meals and consistent nap schedules (if still needed) all contribute to better nighttime rest.
When to Seek Extra Help
If bedtime struggles consistently result in very late nights, frequent night waking or your child seems overly tired during the day, it may be worth discussing sleep concerns with your pediatrician. Sometimes underlying issues like sleep apnea, anxiety, or other medical conditions can play a role.
Final Thoughts
Bedtime challenges are a common part of early childhood. By setting routines, staying consistent, and offering comfort, parents can help children build healthy sleep habits that will support their growth, learning, and emotional well-being. With patience and practice, bedtime doesn’t have to be a nightly struggle—it can become a time of connection and calm.
View and download our helpful Kindergarten Readiness Checklist.
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